So, here I am. Face-to-face with Marielle and about to set my Primary Goals. I’m still unsure. I feel like I am confronting my future and stepping out of what has become a comfort zone for quite some time. But isn’t that what I wanted? So, I take a deep breath and dive in.
Marielle, intent on making this as straightforward as possible, gives me an overview of what to expect. She doesn’t sugar- coat the changes that I will need to make, but assures me that I am in the driver’s seat and she is just a passenger on this journey (that is reassuring, isn’t it?).
Each session, Marielle explains, will have a theme. This one: Setting Goals. Shouldn’t be too hard.
Before we begin, we consider what is in our lives at that moment and what emotion is attached. Then, we set it aside for now, so that we can focus on the task at hand. It is the way in which each session will begin.
My top three goals are fairly easy to list: Finances, Organization, Relationships. I have a secondary goal of Health, which, as I mentioned in my first entry, is moving ahead rather well and is, as it turns out, proof that I can do this.
Fleshing out the details of these goals is a little more difficult. For example, I know that I need to get my finances in order. Who doesn’t? But, how do I want to alleviate this stressor without disturbing my preferred lifestyle too much, yet shake up the status quo?
We work on a general statement, and I discover that I want any paid work I do to energize and excite me while reducing my debt. Is that possibility out there? But we haven’t yet arrived at that point. We are just setting goals. Focus, Linda.
Marielle asks me to reduce my larger goal to a few words – a motto, or banner, that will flag my desire when I hear or see it. She calls it “a shined goal”. Easier said than done, but we finally get there.
Later, as I re-read these slogans, I decide to place them front and centre on a sticky note, so that I will absorb them into my psyche.
Still unsure of the future, I feel ready to move forward to Strategies. But that is the next session and my next blog.
About the Author:
The above entry is part of a new guest blog series titled “A Coaching Journey” written by my friend, client, and talented writer, Linda Epstein. She has graciously agreed to write on her experience with the coaching process as she navigates it, to give a first-hand view of what the journey is like. Visit weekly to find out more!
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