I am a woman of thoughts, words and deeds; a woman who loves the flexibility of retirement, yet is resistant to change; a woman who likes to mull things over before going full throttle. I’m not even sure if Marielle realizes how much she has helped me merge these disparate parts of me into a hopeful, not quite there yet, me.
After our first phone session, midway through the coaching program, I rebelled. I eschewed the schedule for the swamp of abandonment, doing little more than spending time with friends (not even realizing that I was working on my “relationship goal”). I went to bed late – a bad habit that I thought I had conquered – and chastised myself for backsliding.
Then, Sunday happened. I slept in; showered off the muck of the past two days; had brunch; and set to work on my scheduler. The brand new week brought fresh perspective and opportunity. It was a chance clear my head and to start with a clean slate, to celebrate the giant steps that I had viewed as baby steps, and to contemplate the new path I was about to take with, perhaps, my most feared goal – the one that attacked my essence and, perhaps, my freedom.
I had been avoiding the “working for money” issue because it seemed to step on the toes of that freedom, seemed a “must do” rather than a “desired goal”. The goal was about much more than reducing my debt to reduce my stress (my “shine statement” – see Guest Blog #3). It was about using my strengths, passions and interests to create a better me.
Marielle helped me see that the debt I had incurred by building an addition onto my home when income was scarce, was actually an investment in my future. It fulfilled a pre-program goal of aging-in-place – a goal that would also benefit my children. Instead of recoiling at what working for money might do to the other areas of my life, I began to see that it was up to me to make that investment grow and flourish.
With a small change in words and thought, I was able to remove the stress of “debt” that had been hanging over me. It left me free to nurture those passions and interests and to merge my strengths into avenues of opportunity.
After a breather that allowed me to think my way through the fog, I can now thank Marielle for recognizing how words can change perspectives (at least for me), and for chipping away at my resistance. I can now go into next steps – mapping out a life plan that will use my essence to accomplish my goals – ready to turn challenge into opportunity.
About the Author:
The above entry is part of a guest blog series titled “A Coaching Journey” written by my friend, client, and talented writer, Linda Epstein. She has graciously agreed to write on her experience with the coaching process as she navigates it, to give a first-hand view of what the journey is like. Visit weekly to find out more!
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