Fear of a Lack of Purpose in Retirement

A purpose is very important to living a meaningful life. Ernie J. Zelinski, author of How to Retire Happy, Wild and Free says that, “Two essentials for successful retirement are sufficient funds to live on and sufficient things to live for.”

You may have a lot of hobbies, interests and leisure activities that may keep you busy, however, if you want your retirement to be meaningful, these will most likely not be enough. You may need to find your purpose.

So exactly what is ‘purpose’? Think of ‘purpose’ as your ‘why’ – The ‘why’ behind what motivates you to get out of bed in the morning and excited about your day.

Your purpose is your authentic path, being the best ‘you’ are here to be by sharing your unique gifts and strengths to make a difference in this world. By doing this you add value to the lives of others while creating value in your own life. It’s win-win. Your purpose defines who you are and how you will live.

Just because you will be in retirement, doesn’t mean you can’t continue to live your purpose. In fact, if you don’t live your life on purpose, you are more than likely going to feel unfulfilled and dissatisfied with your life in retirement.

Knowing and living your life on purpose is key to a meaningful life.

Fears can be debilitating as they can stop us from achieving our dreams and doing the things we want to do. So, don’t let your fears stop you from living the life you want.

Identify, understand and take action to overcome your fears. These are important steps in preparing yourself psychologically for your retirement.

Visit www.powerupyourretirement.com to watch the ‘Ten Most Common Fears About Retirement’ Masterclass video. 

Marielle Gauthier, owner and principal of Redworks Communications, is a certified Results coach; an Associate Certified Coach (ACC); and a Conversational Intelligence Coach. 

How to Live Your Own Extraordinary Life

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I love this quote because it speaks the truth.

We’ve all been through rough times…illness, the loss of a loved one, career changes and so much more.

We’ve all been surrounded at one point or another in our lives by someone who truly inspired us. Someone doing big things.

We are all capable of resilience and we are all meant for extraordinary.

What does an extraordinary life mean to you?

Maybe living an extraordinary life is being positive, optimistic and perseverant.

Maybe it’s all about taking risks and trying something new even if you’re scared or feeling vulnerable…

An extraordinary life could be living and using your gifts and strengths to make a difference, even a small one…

An extraordinary life could be dreaming and taking action to realize your dreams, no matter how small.

You don’t need to be a rock star, a millionaire, a CEO of a company…you just need to be you, the best ‘YOU’ can be, and make the most of every minute you can.

Taking action

We all have decisions to make. And if you’re ready to start adding that little “extra” into your life…it’s time to take action.

Being extraordinary starts with the actions and decisions we make every single day.

Make a list of goals you’d like to accomplish this year.

And then write down HOW you’re going to accomplish these goals. Remember to aim high!

Manage your mindset

It’s easy to get stuck in the “I can’t” mindset.

We all have that inner voice in our head that makes us doubt ourselves.

And then, if we experience tragedy or loss in our lives, we can let it bring us down. And keep us there.

It’s time to start turning tragedy into triumph, mend your broken heart, and use hardship as the drive you need to rise above and succeed.

It’s in you. It’s in all of us.

It’s time to start transforming those automatic negative thoughts into positive ones.

When you catch yourself doing it, pause, take a breath and think of something you’re grateful for. Think of something big you’ve accomplished. Think of what makes you happy.

Notice how that feels in your body when you think these positive things and next time, when you get down, go back to that special place.

Surround yourself with positivity and inspiration

Being extraordinary is contagious.

Surround yourself with people who inspire you to dream big.

Not only can it give you confidence and help you realize you’re capable of anything too…it can help open up your mind to new possibilities!

You can also gain inspiration from podcasts, webinars, and following people online who inspire you.

No matter how you choose to live an extraordinary life…remember at the core of it all is honouring your authentic self and doing the best you can.

Power of your thoughts

It’s time to stop being so mean to ourselves.

Let’s stop being Debbie Downers and Negative Nancy’s…?

It’s time to shut down our nasty little inner critic.

That voice will always be there…unless we start taking control of it and learn that not all our thoughts are worth listening to. ?

Our minds can be our own worst enemy and one way to battle through all the noise is to practice mindfulness and live in the present moment.

It’s time to find clarity in our heads and start catching those negative thoughts and fears when they arise, and turn them into something good. ?

You’re awesome. You can do this. You got this.

Take one minute today and be still. Just breathe in and out and focus on your breath. Then do it again tomorrow, and the day after that…and the day after that. And see what happens. ??

It’s time to get pumped

It’s time to get pumped.

C’mon, let’s go!

Staying fit in your 40s, 50s and 60s will prepare you for a second half of life of kicking butt and taking names.

No seriously, cardio and strength training are the keys to being the vibrant, healthier-than-everyone, silver fox you see at the gym every day.

Not only does it help prevent a lot of illnesses and injuries common with aging, exercise also boosts your mood, helps you sleep better and keeps you motivated.

Don’t wait to get fit. Even if you’re still a few years away from retirement, forming healthy habits now will make it easier once you take the plunge.

So head to the gym, go for a hike, hit the pool…whatever you need to do to get moving.

What’s your favourite way to stay active?

Fear of Boredom in Retirement

According to Family Service Canada, boredom is the number one reason for dissatisfaction in retirement. Without a person’s routine and social contacts of the workplace, many people feel alone and disengaged from their usual social circle.

You are going to have a lot more time (at least 8 hours / day or 2000 days / year) and anywhere from 20 – 30 years + of life in retirement available to pursue personal interests or hobbies. How will you spend all this extra time?

Now is the time to start planning now BEFORE you retire to start thinking about what you would like to do in your retirement.

What do you love to do? Is it sports, being creative, reading, travelling, gardening, volunteering? What are your interests? What did you love to do as a kid? What did you love to do when you we’re in high school? As a young adult? Or before the kids were born? How will you want to spend an ordinary day?

Fears can be debilitating as they can stop us from achieving our dreams and doing the things we want to do. So, don’t let your fears stop you from living the life you want.

Identify, understand and take action to overcome your fears. These are important steps in preparing yourself psychologically for your retirement.

Visit www.powerupyourretirement.com to watch the ‘Ten Most Common Fears About Retirement’ Masterclass video.

Marielle Gauthier, owner and principal of Redworks Communications, is a certified Results coach; an Associate Certified Coach (ACC); and a Conversational Intelligence Coach. 

To receive updates about Marielle’s retirement coaching program, training and webinars or for more information on coaching services contact Marielle at marielle@redworkscoaching.com or visit www.powerupyourretirement.com.

Setting Healthy Boundaries in Your Life

You know those people who always seem like they got everything together? They’re just breezing through life without a care in the world? They’re successful, happy and ultra chill?

What if I told you, that could be you?!

Seriously, what a lot of these “have-it-together” people have is clarity on what they truly want…their priorities.

It’s easier to make a decision if you know exactly what you want.

Try it right now. Write down three things that are most important to you. Maybe it’s spending time with family, or eating a healthy diet.

Are your relationships important to you but you’re so busy at the office, you’re not spending time with your kids? And when you are, you’re distracted and tired?

Or maybe you want to eat a healthier diet, but you keep going the drive-thru because it’s quick and easy.

Take stock of this and start living your best life today. Start aligning your actions with your priorities. Even if you just block off a bit of time every day…you’ll start seeing balance in your life.

And when you start saying no to what doesn’t work (hellooooo healthy boundaries!), you can start saying yes to the things that do. And YOU can be the one strutting down the street without a care in the world.

This is just one lesson I go into even deeper in my Power Up Your Retirement online course. Check it out!

https://www.powerupyourretirement.com/power-up-insider

What does an extraordinary life mean to you?

What does an extraordinary life mean to you?

Maybe living an extraordinary life is being positive, optimistic, resilient and perseverant.

Maybe it’s all about taking risks and trying something new even if you’re scared or feeling vulnerable…

An extraordinary life could be living and using your gifts and strengths to make a difference, even a small one…

An extraordinary life could be dreaming and taking action to realize your dreams, no matter how small.

Maybe living an extraordinary life is simply sitting at a gathering with your family and friends telling stories and sharing in laughter.

Whatever extraordinary means to you, just remember, to be the best version of yourself.

You don’t need to be a rock star, a millionaire, a CEO of a company…you just need to be you, the best ‘YOU’ can be, and make the most of every minute you can.

How are you going to live your extraordinary life today?

Who inspires you?

 

My mom was a pretty special lady… #understatement

She always had a smile on her face, treated others with love and respect, saw the good in everyone and everything, and really enjoyed the simple things in life.

You could definitely say she’s my inspiration.

I got into coaching to help others lead a happier life and one of the things I love most is when one of my clients has a huge insight or breakthrough and learns something important about themselves or their path.

When I can help someone see the possibility of what their life can look like and take action towards achieving their personal and professional goals, I get pretty excited.

If you’re looking for specialized retirement coaching you can’t find anywhere else, check out my online course called Power UP Your Retirement. I truly want to see you live your best life. https://www.powerupyourretirement.com/power-up-insider

What, or who, inspires you on the daily?

Tips to destress about retirement

The “S” word is a very very bad word.

Yes, I’m talking about STRESS.

And for a lot of you, you may have spent the majority of your day today caring for everyone but yourself.

I know the other “S” word….self-care….can be a bit overused these days but honestly, caring for yourself and your needs is one of the best ways to manage stress, pre-retirement and during retirement.

If you’re getting close to retirement AKA living’ the dream, or you’re already there — you may be worrying about things like not having enough money, or losing relationships…so it’s time to take a deep breath and think of what you can do to ease these woes…

Take a bath, read a book, meditate, take a class at the gym, go out with friends…whatever floats your boat.

Other ways you can battle stress?

  • Eat a balanced, nutritious diet

  • Get more sleep

  • Drink water

  • Start a gratefulness journal

  • Laugh

  • Enjoy a hobby or learn a new one

And seriously, lower your expectations for that “perfect’ retirement life and take one day at a time. Don’t be so hard on yourself.

Right now, I want you to take a deep breath and write down one thing you’re grateful for and it’ll be your first step in self-care today.

“What do you call a person who is happy on a Monday – Retired”

Being retired also means your boss can’t say to you, “Looks like you’ve got a case of the Mondays…” EVER AGAIN. #officespace

Since retirement means more time with friends and family, more freedom and a lot less stress, feeling those happy feels should hopefully come a lot easier.

But maybe you’re feeling a bit lost in this new chapter of your life, or maybe you’re approaching it and feeling a bit anxious…Either way, I have some tips for you to maximize your happiness levels in your post-career life.

The ‘best life’ looks different for everyone, just focus on what you need to do to create ‘your best life’.

  • Surround yourself with positive people
  • Practice gratitude
  • Start the day off with positive intentions
  • Stay focused on the present and enjoy every moment
  • Bring humour into your life every day
  • Quiet your brain with meditation or deep breathing
  • Transform negative self-talk into positive self-talk!

Start by applying just one of these tips this week and see how your mindset changes!

What do you do on the daily to lead a more positive life?